A little bit of context
Do you know someone in our community who has committed suicide due to depression, trauma or abuse? I do. It leaves a big hole in my heart. I bet it does in yours too.
I wonder if I could have done more. If I could have listened more, been there more. If I should have noticed more, spent more time with them. I wonder…could I have done something, anything, that would have made a difference? Today I’m choosing to do something I hope will make a difference. I invite you to join me.
Be we Bears, Leatherfolk or BDSM lifestylers, when problems hit, we have few places to turn to for support from people who understand the often complicated lives we lead.
SM, polyamory, Bears and Leatherfolk, pup packs, Master/slave – are all non mainstream activities, lifestyles and relationship types. Common support services like Lifeline and Beyond Blue often fail to understand the convoluted issues we face. Sometimes we don’t understand them well ourselves.
What is abusive in a lifestyle that celebrates extreme body modification, sadomaschistic activities and authoritarian relationships? How far does consent go? Do we have a duty of care to prevent self harm by our partners and friends? What IS self harm and not human exploration with the added spice of a certain amount of danger? When is it too far and too much?
These are questions our communities regularly face in the event of a tragedy. Questions we’ve been unable to answer and sometimes unable to talk freely about even among ourselves. We’d like to start the work of changing that.
Here’s what we’re starting to do about it
KNOTbound Ltd was created and exists to provide support services to our communities. One of these planned services, The Chain, is a support line for our people to call, staffed with experienced and trained people who can talk to callers with empathy and lifestyle understanding. The Chain has been in the concept stage for two years. We believe it’s time to make The Chain a reality.
Over the next few weeks we will be talking with existing support lines such as Qlife and Lifeline to find the right organisation to work with and hopefully help us shorten the time it takes to make this a reality. We are looking at the kinds of telecommunications systems that will allow trained volunteers to connect to our people in need.
You can join us
To do this we are asking for your help. We are asking you to 'Buy a Link' and help us to raise the initial funds needed to
- Pay for the setup and ongoing costs of the system needed to operate The Chain
- Train and staff a specialised help line
- Create helpful information for people in our community to access
Join us today. Buy a Link. Build The Chain.
Together, we can make a difference.